So let’s say your grandchildren are coming to your house for a visit. They might want to “play” on your computer. Whoa! Wait! Is it secure? What if they inadvertently download a virus or delete a file? Is it safe? What if they accidentally land on a webpage on “the dark side” of the Internet? How can you keep your grandkids safe online?

Are you worried that your grandkids may accidently see something online that would be harmful to them?

Have you set up a safe environment for your grandchildren?

There are two concerns here. 1. Protecting your computer: keeping your hardware, software, files, documents, and bookmarks secure. 2. Protecting your grandkids: creating a safe environment for them that prevents them from accessing inappropriate content on Internet websites.

So let’s discuss some of these potential problems here in part one of this article. Then in part two, we will outline a plan — what you can do to protect your computer and your grandchildren, and alleviate your concerns.

Do you realize if it weren’t for Edison we’d be watching TV by candlelight?  ~Al Boliska

The Internet is a wonderful place for children to explore — lot’s of interesting sites, interactive games and activities, educational resources, etc. But like the real world, there are places on the Internet that are inappropriate for children. You’ve probably heard and thought about potential dangers for kids online. So, when your grandchildren come to visit, your computer needs to be safe. How do we help our grandkids get the most of this virtual cyberspace, while keeping them safe in it?

Over the years, I have personally used various techniques for protecting my computers and my children, and now my grandchildren. Since threats change with new technologies and modern computers, I have had to stay on top of the solutions. But the basic problems are always the same: bad people trying to do bad things to me and my family and to my computers. The basic solutions remain the same also: keep ahead of the bad guys. Install a shield between you and your computers, and the bad guys.

Now, I’m not trying to be paranoid. It’s like locking your front door at night. You don’t have to obsess over all the potential evil out there. You just lock it to be safe, and you don’t worry about it.

Throughout history, parents and grandparents have been concerned for the safety of their children and teenagers. It seems even more challenging the ever with new types of media and gadgets — radio, TV, music, computers, the Internet, mobile phones, iPods, iPhone…. But we can’t follow children everywhere, holding an umbrella over their heads. We need to teach them how to avoid the dangers in the world.

There are certain activities on the Internet that some adults participate in that are not appropriate for children, and other areas that are suitable for some children and not for others.

Pornography — there is sexually-explicit material on the Internet that it is not appropriate for children to view it or seek it out. And search engine results for innocent topics may occasionally include links to inappropriate websites. Email can be a potential problem, with sexually-explicit spam.

Sexual predators try to disguise themselves as a young person in order to befriend and attract children.

Don’t despair! Even though there are potential dangers on the Internet, it is fairly easy to create a secure environment for your family. In part two, you will find steps you can follow to help ensure that your grandchildren have a positive experience online.

- Shayne

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We’d like to hear from you. What things do you do to keep your computer safe for children?

Grammy Tanda and I went to a cultural performance with our son and his wife and their daughter. Our granddaughter, baby Isabella, is now 5 1/2 months old.

It was lots of fun; singing and dancing by several groups from Latin America. The problem is that the baby was supposed to be sleeping. There was just way too much excitement for one little girl — with the loud music, interesting movements, and colorful costumes.  So on the way home, she became cranky. Even Grammy singing Isabella’s favorite song wouldn’t calm her down. (She still loves you Grammy.)

Then I remembered I have thousands photos of the family on my Apple iPhone. (I figure it’s a grandparent’s duty to carry around as many bragging photos as possible.) So I said, “lets see what this high-tech grandpa can do!”

I whipped out my iPhone, chose a photo album with cute photos of the grandkids, and put it in slideshow mode. I held it in front of Isabella. She looked at and calmed right down. She was fascinated with all the photos of her cousins! 

Now, the baby is at that stage where she loves reaching for things and grabbing them. She put one hand on each side of my iPhone and held it there, mesmerized by the pictures on the screen. Well, she is also at that stage where her first teeth are starting to come through, and she likes to put things in her mouth. So she started “chewing” on the corner of my iPhone. I gently pulled it away, but she’d seen enough of my slideshow for one evening! She would rather chew on it. We went back and forth for a minute; a power struggle over who would win this high-tech duel! Luckily, we were about home by then.

If your baby is “beautiful and perfect, never cries or fusses, sleeps on schedule and burps on demand, an angel all the time,” you’re the grandma.  ~Teresa Bloomingdale

I’m happy to report that our high-tech grandbaby had a nice warm meal from her mom, and a pleasant night’s sleep. And in case you’re concerned, I’m also happy to report that my iPhone still works, ready to come to the rescue again at a moment’s notice. I love technology!

Keep on smilin’, Shayne

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Well, I’m flying high in the clouds like Superman. Except instead of a cape, I’m in jet airplane. I’m headed to see two of my grandsons, ages 6 and 4. Grammy Tanda had her turn a couple of weeks ago. So I figured, just to be fair to our grandsons, I should have a turn too! As I mentioned before, my wife and I enjoy traveling together, but sometimes our schedules don’t jive. School starts today, and as I write this, she’s teaching class about now. Probably trying to act tough and lay down the rules for her high school students in her Cultures and Cuisines class. (But she’s a “marshmallow”, and she knows it.)

So here I am, loaded with ideas of things to do with my grandsons this week. I’ve got my iPhone stocked full of fun little apps from the iTunes app store. (I’ll be writing about this in the near future.) I’ve got stickers. I’ve got crafts. I’ve got some play money I call “Grandpa bucks” that I’ll give them each time they chose the right or help clean up their toys. Then I’ll open up my “Grandpa Store”, my cache of goodies from the dollar store. We’ll go camping. We’ll be goofy. We’ll build a “fort” in the back yard. And maybe by the end of the week, I’ll understand why my wife felt so tired when she got home from her visit.

Grandparents are there to help the child get into mischief they haven’t thought of yet. ~Gene Perret

Boys – they’re so full of energy! As a young father, I learned it is best to be flexible, because sometimes, before we can finish one of my planned activities, these young’uns decide they want to do something else. Now, I wouldn’t want to run out of ideas on this trip. So I’m hoping to pick up a few tips and ideas for games, treats, activities, and so forth from you, our readers. Things that you’ve found particularly successful with young grandsons. We had such a wonderful discussion about what you grandparents like to do with your grandchildren in our Grammy’s back home post. Let’s continue the discussion here. What would you suggest for young grandsons?

Thanks, Shayne

My wife, Grammy Tanda, is back home after playing Grammy for a couple of weeks! She’s a high school teacher, and loves to go spend time with our grandkids for a few weeks at a time each summer On this trip, she went to see two of our young grandsons, 3 and 6 years old.

If you’ve read our About Shayne & Tanda page, you’ll remember that 7 of our 8 grandchildren live in 3 different areas of the country. Since it’s too far to drive, this means lots of flying. But Grammy Tanda doesn’t mind because it’s so fun being with the grandkids. (Oh, and I think she might like seeing our daughters and their hubbies too, but this blog is about grandparenting.) We enjoy going together whenever possible. But when only one of us can get away, we feel that it’s important enough, so we don’t let that stop us. Sometimes one of us is traveling on business somewhere close to where some of our grandchildren live. So we try to schedule in a little detour for even a day or two. If you plan it right, it doesn’t cost that much more to add an extra city to your flight plans.

Our grandchildren love Grammy! She is so fun and has so much enthusiasm in her role as a grandmother. Grammy is very creative, and is always prepared with fun ideas to do with the grandkids. She is aware of their short attention spans, so she watches for their queues, and is ready to shift directions when they start to get bored or distracted.

Now let’s see, on this trip, Grammy and the 2 grandsons went on nature hikes, swimming, fishing, crafts, cooking together, reading, playing fun games, just to mention a few things. She also also enjoyed helping with meals.

Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do. Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children. ~Alex Haley

I miss her while she’s gone, but we chat on the phone a few times each day. Sometimes she’ll call after being worn out or emotionally spent. Maybe you’ve noticed that young’uns can do that to you.

Tanda teaches Family and Consumer Science (what used to be Home Ec, but it’s so much more now days). So she is very good at connecting with high schoolers, and kids of all ages. And after helping me raise after raising five children (with my help), she’s had lots of experience communicating with children of all ages.

Now that she’s back home, she’ll keep the memories fresh by calling them on the phone often, and by video chatting using iChat on our Macintosh or with our VoIP videophone.

We’re interested to know what fun things you enjoy doing when you spend time with your grandchildren. We welcome your comments.

Thanks, Shayne

Our eighth grandchild was born in April. Baby Isabella is a calm, cute, chubby little girl. She is starting to smile and coo more now. It’s amazing how exciting having a new grandchild is. The eighth one is as awesome as the first. It will be especially fun having Isabella and her parents live close by for awhile! Our other seven grandchildren live in three separate parts of the country. But we stay connected in many ways using technology. For example, I showed my son how to easy it is to publish a new online photo album for Isabella on his family website. We love technology that helps connect us together as an extended family!

Grandchildren are the dots that connect the lines from generation to generation. ~Lois Wyse

In upcoming tutorials, we will be showing how to easy it can be to use cool technology to connect with your grandkids. Stay tuned….

Shayne and Tanda Packer